Genesis:

     God made Adam first . . .Like it, love it, accept it or hate it. It is still a fact. But, trip on this - God saw Adam - now watch this - Adam was in charge on Earth. He was in Charge. God charged him with the task of naming all the animals,  birds, fowl, insects, plants, vegetation, all that. Adam was in charge - da' man! But despite all that, God saw man and man was lonely - and it was not good.

     God said it was not good for this man He created to be lonely - alone. Solution? He - God - put him to sleep, and from him removed a rib, and made a help mate. A woman - wo - wom- womb - born of a man - woman. Helpmate - assistant. Assist man: not carry,  not burden, not provide for - to compliment your Adam. Now how complimentary are you, us, we?

     So now bug on this too: Adam had a rib removed to help form his helpmate, and survived less one rib - and survived and continued to live. He lived. Woman - Eve - could not have even existed without what? Him, Man, Adam. Deep huh? She [we] came from his rib. Now examine what does a rib - a rib cage - do? It protects our His, Adam, Man - protects the heart. Got your attention now.

     To assist him,  to help him,  is stemmed from protecting his heart. Your duty is to know what it is you are protecting, assisting with - your duty is to know his heart. How are you going to be concerned with helping him if you are helping yourself to someone else' Adam, . .  . .  to helping your girl with her issues,  . .or even your momma, before you run it by him - your Adam? Yes I did! -  yo momma. ". . . for when I was a child, I did as a child did. When I became a man - a woman -  I put away those childish things." . . . habits, attitudes, relationships ". . . and went the way of a man " - an adult.

     Your mother or parental unit should have enough respect to have raised you well enough to put away those things that interfere with your rightful place as an adult - as Eve, as a woman. Your parents should have given you the tools to honor thy mother and thy father. Fore there is no greater honor than witnessing your child, as an adult, to lead, be in charge or of protecting her Adams' heart.

Grow up, take your rightful place, or Adam will not be the only one alone - and that is not good.

Maintaining your Love's Cup

I guess that is where we start - what is a "love cup".  I thought long and hard on how to present a love cup in the light and importance that it deserves. Okay - this is a crude attempt, it is easier for me to verbalize than type and express, but . . . here we go. Even as I type this, I struggle with the significant definition. The important part of a love cup is  to understand the act of filling another's love cup is embracing that it is not  a self seeking act. 

Love cups - involve knowing and trusting someone enough to be comforted that your efforts will not be in vain. Your giving efforts will (should) result in having the freedom and energy to willingly and openly give to another and fulfill their love cup needs. And give them the energy to fill your love cup needs.
For instance: I hate the smell of gasoline. When I have to pump gas in my car, I place the nozzle in the hole, push the appropriate buttons - which every premium quality gas is the cheapest, and move away from the pump until it reaches the appropriate amount or $20. So my love cup includes having someone put gas in my car. I also always needed change the the toll fees, so my love cup may include ensuring I had enough quarters in the ashtray of my vehicle to not worry about the fees. Or I Love, love love Calla Lillie's, my love cup on special occasions needed those particular flowers. My duties to my significant other is to know him well enough to understand his love cup needs. My duty was to concentrate on his love cup needs to allow him the energy to fill my love cup.

The crux of making love cup connections is trust. You have to trust that your needs are being taken care of in order to have the energy to maintain your love's cup. That being said if you attempt to maintain your own love cup then you are disallowing someone the opportunity to demonstrate they can take care of your needs. And you are not allowing yourself the opportunity to be loved. You are responsible for how you give and receive love through the simple act of being selfless.

Love is not selfish - it is selfless. Give more than it needs to receive. Love does not keep count, love does not keep score. Love cannot survive through any selfish act.  Selfishness chokes every drop from our own love cup dry simply because we become so preoccupied - and/or afraid to let go - that our needs are not being met because we won't trust our "love" to do what they are supposed to do for us.

It is an honor to fill the love cup of the person we love. It is also an honor to have them love us enough to fill our cups. Appreciate the little things. Appreciate and respect that some one cares enough about you to make an effort. Do not take gifts, offerings, attempts,for granted. You are not just entitled. You have earned it, but guess what - so have they.

Bottom line: love someone else  - trust the love - and we can all drink up. Salud!