Whatever you are talking about if it does not benefit you, the person you are talking to or talking about don't tell it. Proverbs 18:21:21Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life].(A)
We all have things, issues, processes, experiences we have survived. If we don't share a story or encounter to benefits then we are doing one of two things: gossiping or seeking sympathy - either is destructive, or even pathetic.
We need to speak life and love into situations. Uplift one another. "Girl, I know what you are going through, but I came out of it by doing . . . " most importantly share how you came through. We all have opinions - and as the saying goes we them and like assholes - they stink. Unless - we are offering advise to edify whoever ear you are bending keep it to yourself.
Speak life into dead situations. Not and not leave, or doubt, or give up. Speak encouragement, not bulls***, don't offer someone the opportunity to wallow or dwell at the bottom because you didn't have the wherewith all or courage to come up. We know misery loves company - so the question becomes why are you miserable and why would you want to spread that dis-ease? Don't seek company seek an outlet.
Don't allow anyone to come in the middle of a conversation and leave the same way they entered - empty. Our duty to fellows, to sisterhood, to ourselves is to move forward! Be an example of how it can be done differently. Let us not succumb to nonsense.
I read a quote once when I myself was going through a battered woman counseling session - "It's not your fault you got knocked down. It is your fault if you stay down". Do not stay down and do not put someone down with a story, gossip, or a straight a up lie.
Speak up and speak well. Don't tell that story if it is not going to benefit you, the person you are talking to, or the issue you are talking about.
Speak life.
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