People abuse the word "relationship". When we are in relationships with think this or that should not or should exist. The question becomes was the should and should nots discussed in the confines, the outlines of the relationship?
The abuse of the word: if you know your mail-carries first name, you have moved into a comfortable relation with you mail-carrier. However, there is not an intimate confirmation in a relationship with our mail-carrier. Intimate is another word that is misused.
Intimacy comes when we - watch this now - when we open up and expose the details of our lives with someone we what? - trust! I have to trust you to share you to share me intimately. Now if you fall falsely on trust of another, that trust become the subject of gossip. Now you have put your business out there by your own actions. You failed to commit to the diligence of qualifying an intimate relationship you merely wanted to trust. Usually a soul to cosign your nonsense.
The intimacy of trust in a romantic - physically Satisfying - relationship cannot exist without the intimacy of trust. Trust that he is the man he proclaimed to be. That she is the wo-man she claimed to be. Ladies, if he don't step to you with his Real man pants on - don't take yours off! Gentlemen, if she was a ho when you met her, she is going to be a ho when you date her. . It is not about the need of the physical satisfaction 'cause you can do that by yourself. If ain't got a man you got a hand . . .work it. So it is not about the physical love because everyone you "get with" does not love you and you don't love them. It is about the trust of having a relationship with a person we trust. We can only trust someone if we know and trust ourselves first. To thine own self be true. Stop telling lies to yourself fist.
Most of us are living an unsatisfied life because of the lies we tell ourselves. If we ho-hopping around we say "I will stop when the right one comes around. And I will know if he is the right one". No you won't - because you have a bad vantage point from your knees. We look in the mirror and say "I am not fat - my people or big boneded". It has nothing to do with your momma, daddy, auntie, brother, or sister weight. - you Are indeed Fat. All the high dollar, too tight, too big, or "i'mma get into this next summer" clothes don't guess the fact the you need to take fewer trips to the drive thru and a few more to the whole food grocer.
One of the biggest lies we women allow ourselves to tell ourselves is "he can't handle me 'caue I am a strong educated/smart woman".Huh? If you are all that, how could he Not want you?? What would be lanyap, butta, that is extra nice! Right?
These lies stem from not having the strength of character to accept our own faults. Not being satisfied with who is truly in the mirror. I am not talking about the made-up, make-up selves. Rather, the real woman who needs to trust in being satisfied with the relationship she has not primarily with self, but; with the One she has, where her - our - true unshakable trust and help comes from - GOD.
Stop trying to hide out in your own world and trust in the Kingdom and purpose HE has for you - for us. Jeremiah 29:11 - 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. " He knows what you need to be satisfied!
Strengthen your relationship with God, you will not only be satisfied - you will have so little time to bug on anything that does not fall under the Utopia of being Heavenly blessed. The first conversation that should be had in any relationship is "Do you Believe in God?" That will dictate the pace of every conversation and motion in the confines of your intimate relationships.
Trust that.
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